How to Become an Escort
How to Become an Escort
For anyone curious, we’ve put together a few basics on how to become an escort; what it’s like and what you’ll need to get started. We demystify a few fables about life as an escort and dish out some hard facts on going it alone in the UK as a adult work professional.
Becoming an Escort in the UK is legal and there are no laws against Escorting. Being a Prostitute in the UK is also legal, however, there are differences between the two and laws surrounding.
A Prostitute earns money solely in exchange for sexual activity. Prostitution, covers ‘sex work’ and ‘sex trafficking’, the difference being consensual (agreed, the former) and non-consensual (not agreed, the latter).
Escorting can include sex work*. The level of intimacy involved is usually agreed by both parties ahead of the meeting and is, therefore, consensual. Escorting (as the name would suggest), is pay for companionship over a period of time. The services required or what constitutes as the job is decided between the Escort and Client. Generally, any business arrangements and exchanges of intimacy take place in privacy. The role of an Escort can also include; travel, attending dinners/parties/functions and any specific experience or a particular skill set the Escort has become accomplished in.
The role of an Escort can also include; travel, attending dinners/parties/functions and any specific experience or a particular skill set the Escort has become accomplished in.
*Sex work as relevant to the adult work industry. Roles covered by the term include; brothel, exotic massage, BDSM, porn star, exotic dancer, phone sex etc.
For further reading, please see the UK National Escort Association.
Safety First. You – Mentally and Physically
Your safety and well-being are your sole responsibility and number 1 priority. If you cannot manage your well-being consistently and successfully along with work, becoming an escort is not for you.
A few things to consider…
Even if you work for an Escort Agency, you are your own boss. This includes self-employed responsibilities with the government and your health and happiness. As with many good things, there comes a time when they must end and the second most important responsibility you have is knowing when to stop.
This probably why one of the reasons the industry is as tough as it can be rewarding, it is hard work and not for a closed mind or faint heart The job entails some risk and it is down to you to eliminate the ‘chances’. Know how you work and what you need to stay connected with yourself. You are going to need everything you’ve got.
Although you are supported by the national services, if you ever get to the point of needing their help – you are not in a good place. You do not get a second chance at being unscathed, physically or emotionally and no amount of money is worth the risk.
Do not do anything that could possibly impair your judgment. If you are not of sound mind, then you should not work. Even feeling tired can jeopardise your safety and remember it is your responsibility not to let your well-being be compromised.
1. Know your preferences and set yourself some principles to work by
What type of guys or girls you like and think you want to work with? As true of any workplace, there will be different characters, agenda and values people associate to escorting. This will become clear when you start or set up a booking but it helps if you have thought about how you want to market yourself to your client base. What do you enjoy or find interesting, physically and mentally? – naturally, you are going to enjoy and be good at different things which, can set you apart from others in the industry.
Set yourself some principles and boundaries to work by and review regularly. How, what and why are you doing something a certain way? Where do you draw the line in time spent chatting? What do you consider buying signals? etc… These will likely change over time as you tweak how to make the work suit you and what doesn’t. By setting these out from the start will give you a base to work from and as every escort knows, without – you will find yourself exposed (and not in the way you intended). If you get spooked then stop, have a think and if you need, take a break.
2. What do you want?
Why are you doing this? Really….
What is your game plan short term/long term? – Have a plan.
Have you thought about the risks as well as the rewards? – physically and socially how will this fit in with your life?
It might be in an industry of ‘pleasure’ but being successful takes some serious graft and time just like any other job or business.
3. Gather as much information as possible before making a decision
Do your research. If you don’t already know what something means, spend time looking at websites and the language used. Check out our escort services guide for a good understanding of terminology. Knowledge is key when communicating and negotiating with clients. It will also make your life easier when arranging bookings. If you’re not sure, find out. Safely!!
If you aren’t confident in making your decision, then you don’t have enough detail. Avoiding Timewasters is a hard task at first. You will soon become more comfortable in knowing what you need and where to draw the line. That said, some of my best clients are those that have been slow but persistent, for which I respect. Not all prospective clients, however, have such genuine intentions.
The easiest way to separate potential clients and timewasters depend on the quality of questions they ask and vice versa. Decent clients will be on a fact-finding mission as they know what they are after. Timewasters ask a question, followed by another question based on your answer and the chat will have a psychoanalysis feel about it, something strippers are well accustomed too! Sometimes questioning is legit but in my opinion, that kind of getting to know someone should be saved for face to face and if they are interested it should be possible to steer the conversation towards a meetup.
4. Do take responsibility
You must be fully accountable and should only be fully accountable for yourself and your actions. If you take advice from anyone (myself included), be aware that it is still your choice/decision at the end of the day and consider the consequences if you get it wrong. This includes data protection and privacy not just in person but online in any presence.
5. Be prepared – the practicalities
Efficient time management means effective journey planning and diarising. Time is your most valuable asset, time is money. Don’t waste it getting lost when you could have spent 5 minutes earlier in the day or week looking up the address or journey planning. Arriving late or flustered is not a good look.
This also applies to the contents of your bag. A well-prepared kit bag can be the difference between a booking and no booking… A few items I generally carry;
- make up
- a fresh set of underwear (suspenders/stockings)
- small novelties (ties, blindfold, whip/paddle, candles, insense)
Anything to support or assist you in maintaining optimum standards for your work, attitude and health. Anything more specific such as outfits or toys unless your domain, would normally be requested by the client ahead of your meeting. Pack and Unpack your bag every day, this helps know where you are with supplies and ensures you have everything you need for upcoming appointments and saves carrying any unnecessaries!
Some jobs will require you to travel abroad, attend a function or simply have dinner with a client. Make sure whatever you agree to in the terms of the booking, you have prepared for. This might sound daft but the devil is in the detail, for example, your wardrobe. An appropriate outfit will make you feel more confident and on the reverse, there is nothing worse than being ‘on show’ when you are trying to be discreet!
What’s going on in the market?
Check out our blog comparing the market leaders Adultwork & Fuber (us – the new kids on the block!) for the ultimate overview of where to advertise and connect with clients. And for further reading, we’ve got a beginners guide to escort marketing.
Escorting in a nutshell
Escorting is fun and rewarding but it is hard on the body and the brain and a decision to enter the world of adult work should not be taken lightly. As with any industry, there are people with good intentions and people with less desirable ones. Keep one eye on the ball at all times and the other on where you want to get to and you should have no trouble in getting there.